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Affect Labelling

When faced with difficult emotional situations, it can often be helpful to think about the problem or situation in a different way. In...

Of Problems and Choices

Few things are as certain in life as the fact that some things are just not within our power to change. We don't control the weather, we...

Thinking Traps

When you're cooking, sometimes things go wrong - and usually in some fairly predictable ways. You may have overcooked or undercooked your...

Let it R.A.I.N.

I've long been a proponent of thinking about resolving psychological difficulties in terms of progressing through three distinct steps:...

Points of View

The popular sentiment is that it has been a rough year. If 2020 was a test, many of us failed. Some of us lost all sense of structure and...

The News You Can't Use

The news feels relentless these days, and one might be forgiven for thinking that at the end of 2020, the majority of the news that we're...

Negative Visualization

Happiness is often thought of as the gap, or lack thereof, between what we want, and what we have. In this view, happiness is simply...

Mindset Matters - Winter in the time of COVID-19

Winter is a difficult season for some, even during the best of times. Lack of natural sunlight can lead to seasonal depression and...

Via Negativa - Addition by Subtraction

We all have goals and aspirations for being better versions of ourselves. We want to lose weight. We want to eat a healthier diet. We...

Attention: The Character of Our Experience and the Quality of Our Lives

In honour of World Mental Health Day coming up on October 10, 2020 I want to draw your attention to an important aspect of mental health:...